I really don't know how to start this blog. I can't even remember when was the last time I blogged about my personal life rather than just posting essays. It's 4:17 pm here in Canada, and all my friends and family back in Indonesia are probably still sleeping now. And guess what? I have so very few friends here that I'm not gonna expect my phone to ring at any moment now.

Ah why am I in Canada again? Some of you may have no clue why. So here's why.

I came here exactly 2 weeks ago, with 3 large suitcases, hoping to make better life by taking the chance of continuing my study in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, Earth (still not on Mars, unfortunately). My fabulous university is called Simon Fraser University and my awesome pick of a major is called Publishing (with my soon to be graduate degree : MPub).

I'm sure a lot of you will ask these following questions in your mind :
1. Why so far away? Doesn't Singapore have that kind of major in some of their prestigious universities?
2. What's Publishing again? Why chose a major that is completely unrelated to your bachelor's degree?

To answer your question :
1. IT IS FAR. It took me 21 hours to get here! And no, currently there are only 2 universities in the world that offer a sole degree in Publishing (not in Communication, English or Journalism), which are my university and New York University. And of course, I chose NYU first, but you know how expensive their tuition fee is. Not to mention, it is in Midtown Manhattan, so do the living cost math! 
2. It is the kind of activity that produces books, magazines and newspapers. You are dumb enough if you still don't understand. And I chose this major because I DESPISE accounting and I just don't think that I could survive, let alone be a rich gal, if I keep living and working as an accountant. Besides, Publishing is the only field that holds all my bits of talents, from photography, graphic design, writing and editing. And I love books and magazines! 

Okay. Enough with the questions. I've been in Vancouver for 2 weeks now and I can tell you this : I AM SO BORED. I am not gonna lie, there is nothing this city has to offer rather than dining, hiking, skiing and sightseeing. Dining I am fine, but you all know that I'm a city girl who loves to breathe the busy and alive pace, like NYC's. I might be overly subjective here, because most people say that Vancouver is one of the best and most beautiful city they have ever visited/lived in, but not to me. In addition, everything here is godamn expensive, from foods, rent, even probably the air we breathe in! I've been to malls, restaurants, parks, beaches, night markets, but STILL BORED. That's one particular reason why I'm blogging right now, because I AM SO BORED, even though I have 2 reading assignments coming up, but yeah, I AM BORED.

But your classes have started, why are you still bored?

Well yeah, probably I'll get busy later on, but so far, nothing that I couldn't handle. The assignments seem fun and challenging (though sometimes can be overwhelming, even to my standard), the instructors seem awesome, the campus is nice, the classmates are OK, but living here in the past weeks has taught me several things :
1. I have taken my car, my maids and Indonesia's low prices for granted. I have to walk nearly a kilometer everyday to get to the station and still have to take trains to get to Downtown, I have to do my own laundry (which is fucking complicated for a spoiled bastard like me whose clothes are hand washed by my lovely maids) and cleanings, I have to buy groceries (which is super challenging because I don't have a car) and cook if I don't wanna die young, and mostly, I have to be stingy about everything, especially foods, because everything here is (again) ridiculously expensive. 
2. I drove waaaayyy too fast back in Indonesia. Their speed limit is 60 km/h. CRAZY!
3. Pedestrians are king. Even when a car is close approaching you, it has to stop and let the pedestrians cross over first. Which won't be dangerous considering they are going below 60 and it's not that crowded here. But if it were to happen in Indonesia, then sudden brake, another car hits you from the back. Or you run over the pedestrians. (IMO, it makes much more sense to me if the pedestrians are the ones stopping first, because we could see the road clearer + we have the control of our own body, not a vehicle, RIGHT?)
4. It takes me more than a minute everytime I throw away my garbage. They recycle, so well, they have 4 bins. FOUR.
5.  Bubble Tea (BBT) here is lit.
6. Canadian Banks are sooooo primitive. Some of them limit your transactions, withdrawals, usages and transfers and if you go over your limit, they will charge your for $1++. Why? WHY? And it is sooo hard to find an ATM machine here. And for some reasons, cash are useless here.
7. I can't even begin to describe how expensive internet data can be here. I pay $50 for 8gigs & unlimited talks/texts per month and it is considered to be very cheap because mine is a shitty provider (and in here, if you have no service, you are screwed, like real screwed). If you want a good provider, you'll have to pay around 60 bucks for 3 gigs!
8. Cars here are cheaper than Indonesia (3:4 comparison), but gasoline costs about $1.5/liter, add with insurance (expensive!) and taxes (expensive!). Still pretty much the same with owning a car in Indonesia, but there is the parking fees ... 5 BUCKS FOR 2 HOURS!
9. Having an air conditioner here is considered a privilege, since the AC itself is expensive and the installation can cost you up to FOUR THOUSAND BUCKS per AC!
10. Public transportation is easy, but very limited. Not like Singapore or Japan. They only have 3 lines for trains, and several stops for buses.

At my campus, I also learn few more things :
1. My previous university's facilities is SHIT compared to SFU's. I have my own assigned room with individual PC, free prints, free copier, free coffee, fast wifi!
2. I am probably the youngest and the least experienced among my peers. Also, the most clueless one, especially when they are talking about Canadian politics-economy-publishing thingy, because I've been US-centric all my life.
3. For the first time in my entire life, I feel like I need to read more. How the fck they already read Virginia Woolf's A Room of One's Own?!
4. I am that awkward Asian who is considered very tall for an Asian (STILL! I thought this was gonna change!) and they often say, "How come you are so fair if you are Indonesian?" and "How come your English is so good?". Figure it out by yourself why.

Vancouver oh Vancouver. It's been a journey. A FANTASTIC one. Here's a story for you ...

I flew with Cathay Pacific from Surabaya-Indonesia to Hongkong for 5 hours then layover for another 5 hours which were tiring because I've never been to Hongkong's airport before and I was all by myself, was sick and have to carry heavy handbag and a small suitcase, all because my father was so stingy he didn't want to accompany me. Then I flew with Air Canada (Cathay Pacific was much much better selection I can tell you that) for 11 straight hours to Vancouver. After I arrived in YVR, Vancouver, I had to wait for an hour for my baggage to show up, then waited for roughly 2 hours to get my study permit at the airport. Then, my acquaintances from church picked me up then drove me off to the 'student hotel' that I'd booked earlier. Guess what? The hotel is a scam, fucking scam. It's located in the worst neighborhood in Vancouver, with possibly near a hundred homeless in sight (Vancouver's homeless are not dangerous like NY's but it's a peace of mind not to get near them). So I decided to bail, lost my $250 deposit, and stayed at the hotel. BUT I DIDN'T. There was no hotel available because it was sooo late at night. Fortunately, one of the people from church offered her apartment for me to crash in. A STRANGER'S APARTMENT. But praise the Lord she did. Long story short, all that passed, I found a nice private room in a house, not that expensive (but still not that cheap either), it's near skytrain station (Canada line baby!), quite big, fully renovated and has semi-washroom (or bathroom we call it). Quite an experience Canada has given me.

Oh shit, it's 5:21 now, I need to cook dinner. Good day mate!

- See the irony of this post? This post is sooooo messy that I might need an Editor. And I'm trying to become one! -

(all the currency is in Canadian Dollars : roughly Rp 10.600,-/CAD 1)
(image above is taken with iPhone 7+ at Iona Beach Walkway, Vancouver, BC, Canada with no edit whatsoever)


September 8, 2017

Giving gifts is both satisfying and tricky. Satisfying when the recipient likes what we give and tricky when the recipient cringes and smiles politely when opening it. I consider myself a great gift-er (yes, I made that word up) yet I continuously get lousy gifts. It's not that I'm complaining, but no one really succeeded on giving me something that are all sentimental, useful and considerably me. As you all know, Valentine's Day is near and I'm here to give you the ultimate guide on gift-ing!

First, I wanna talk about the most frequent gifts people often give. No matter the occasions, either birthday, anniversary even wedding, these gifts never fail to show up. Here they are :

1. Flower Bouquet. This type of gifts are everywhere during anniversaries, mother's day, valentine's day and graduation day. This is the type of gifts that rarely fail, because it is beautiful no matter what, people know that it is not cheap and although lacking of usefulness, drying them out is considerably timeless. First thing to point out is always do your best to give fresh flowers. Artificial is good in terms of durability, but it is lacking on sentimentality. The latest trend of paper flowers is also cute, but come on ... why on earth would you give origami-like flowers to people. Another thing to point out is that you can never go wrong with roses, as only very few people dislike it. Of course there are people with flower preferences, like tulips, carnations even lilies. Asking someone what is his/her favorite flowers is easy. You can just ask blatantly out of nowhere, trust me. It is like asking what their favorite color is. Another thing to add is style preferences. There are many styles nowadays, from elegant to rustic. It is your job to find out what style belongs to the person you're giving flowers to. It is super easy! If they are glamorous, red roses with gold/black wrapper and a little pearls here and there never fails. If they are outgoing, sunflowers with brown paper wrapping is a go to. If they are simple, down-to-earth, rustic style arrangement might just be the answer. Furthermore, always mind the wrapper and the embellishment like ribbon, additional flowers like baby's breath or leaves. You can always leave it to the florist to arrange it for you, but a little sentimentality like yellow ribbon to symbolize friendship is very thoughtful. Last but not least, the color. It is very important to know what color to choose for the flowers. It can be based on the meaning (like red rose means love and desire, etc) or it can be based on that person's preferences. Again, do your best to find out what color they like.

2. Chocolate. This type of gifts may not be given just as it is, except on Valentine's Day. Giving chocolate is easy. You only need to differentiate the flavors. For instance, if someone dislikes sweets and you always see them order iced coffee, dark chocolate is your answer. For the brand, you can always choose the popular ones, like Lindt's or Godiva. The embellishment is also very easy, just wrap it with ribbon and you are good to go. However, always keep in mind if the recipient has diabetes or dislikes sweets in general. 

3. Cake. This type of gifts is usually accompanied with other gifts, especially on birthdays. Cake may come in lots of variety but you can never go wrong with it. Chocolate cake, opera cake and strawberry shortcake are your safest option, although you can always go for others. If you want to be more thoughtful, you can find out the specific flavors your recipient likes, for instance carrot cake, cheese cake, etc. The sweetness and nutritions contained in the cake can also be customized, depending on how your recipient likes it, especially when your recipient has allergies or special needs. 6 inches whole cake is preferable, but you can always go big or go less, depending on the occasion. Lastly, be thoughtful with the garnish and/ fondant. For instance, you can order a custom car-like cake if the recipient likes car or bag-like cake if the recipient likes bag. Cupcakes and macarons are your other options, but you can never go wrong with a cake.

4. Jewelry. This type of gifts is both easy and tricky. Easy when you simply buy a type of jewelries that looks beautiful and give it to someone. If they don't like it, they can always sell it or custom it. Tricky when you want it to be sentimental and meaningful, like for anniversaries. How thoughtful? Well, you have to mind if the recipient prefers silver gold, gold or rose gold. Do they prefer diamonds or stones or nothing at all? You also have to think about the cut (for diamond), the style (also for diamond) and the consistency. You then have to weight the value and the types : does the recipient prefer ring or necklace or earrings? Does the recipient prefer specific brands like Cartier or Tiffany? Lastly, the size. It is mostly applicable for ring, although bracelets might have sizes too. Finding out ring size is hard. You can not just measure their finger or borrow their ring for sizing. Well, I can't give you tips on how to get a ring size of your significant other. You have to find that out by yourself. Hahaha.

5. Watch. This type of gift is very easy but expensive. They differ only in straps, mechanics, styles and brands. I am sure your recipient has a watch. My tip is to buy something similar like what they own. For instance, if he likes an automatic chrono with black leather straps, you can always buy an automatic chromo with dark brown leather straps. For the brand, try to go with another brand which lies on the same price range. Last but not least, you can always engrave a message or initials on the back of the watch.

6. Tech. This type of gift is the easiest of bunch but really expensive. You can always give the latest iPhone and your recipient will cheer for it. Always keep in mind about their need; if your recipient needs a camera, buy a camera. Needs a laptop? Buy a laptop. The personalization is the lowest in here, only colors. Fortunately, you can never go wrong with black and silver. 

7. Shoes. This type of gift is tricky, especially for guys. You will have to find out the size, the preferred brand (this is important, because some feet are comfortable in certain brands), the style and the level of comfort it offers. Finding out the size is easy, you can always jokingly say about how big or small his/her feet are or take a peek under their shoes. You can always buy the same style of shoes with different colors or materials, or if you are very thoughtful or happen to know what shoes he/she wants or does not have, you can always buy them. Last but not least, the brand. It is easy to find out the brand, just ask where they usually shop for shoes.

8. Books. This type of gift can be very thoughtful if executed well. There are a lot of aspects you need to keep in mind, from what genre is preferred to which edition. Buying a first edition of someone's favorite book is the ultimate gift, but it can be really expensive for some. The trick is to find out what kind of books he/she usually reads, then browse Goodreads/Barnes&Noble/Amazon for the best-selling ones in the genre, but you have to make sure he/she does not already own it.

9. Toys. This type of gift is easy, because a lot of people tend to tell about what toys they are eyeing on or based on what characters are their most-wanted toys. If all else fails, you can always shop for the best-selling ones. 

10. Bag & Wallet. This type of gift is tricky. First, you have to know the style and color the recipient prefers. Eventhough you can find out by looking at the bag/wallet he/she usually wears, you have to know the size. The difficulty in size lies on whether particular size is needed in their collection and fits for their usual use. Next, you have to mind the durability, especially when it is not a high quality fabric/leather and is not hand-stitched. Lastly, some people prefer certain brands and if you don't have a budget, it will be nice to give them their favorite brand.

11. Clothes. This is the trickiest gift of all, because fashion is always evolving and not all style looks good on everyone. First, you will need to know their style and favorite colors. You can easily judge by their everyday clothing, but with dresses and suits, there are lesser clues. Then you will have to find out their size and fit, and it is extremely tricky, considering every brands do not follow the same size. The easiest for women will be tops, especially the less fitted ones. For men, shirt is your go to, as most men shirts carry the same sizes and fits in every brands. My tip is to buy their usual brands because the size will be the same, buy the most basic colors like black and white and always keep the tag on, in case they need to return it. My advice for you is not to buy clothes unless you are the bestfriend or the significant other and know where they usually shop and what size and style they usually pick in that very store.

12. Gift card. This type of gift is considered a life saver, especially for the clueless. Your friend is a frequent shopper at Sephora? Buy a Sephora gift card! It is versatile, as they can shop what they want, what suits them and what they need. However, you have to really consider the appropriate value you are giving in that very gift card so that it will not offend the recipient. 

After we've been through those twelve above, let's get to the list of gifts that I find .... inconsiderate and lazy. Here they are :

1. Doll. Unless the recipient is under 12 years old, do not wrap a fucking teddy bear. A special character doll, like Monster Inc.'s Sully might be thoughtful if the recipient likes Sully, but ... it is just useless. Unless they specifically ask for it, do not buy dolls for heaven's sake.

2. Hampers. It may look expensive, but not everything in that hamper is usable or needed. For instance, you buy a baby hamper for a baby shower, with towels and stuffs that the recipient already owns. USELESS. 

3. Ballpoint. I might be bias here, because some people may appreciate a Mont Blanc with their name engraved on it .. but come on.

Although the most important part on giving gifts is the intention, it would not hurt to supply the occasion and the interest of the recipient. For example, if the recipient is a chef, a set of expensive knives will be thoughtful, elegant and useful. If you are giving a wedding gifts, always ALWAYS stick to the register. Another thing to add, always pay attention to the wrapping, embellishment and notes, because that's where you can get personal. Happy gifting!


(this part is strictly requested by a dear friend of mine only for fun)


   - 13 sunflowers with little leaves, brown wrapping paper, brown string
   - white peonies with little leaves, brown wrapping rustic cloth, brown string
   - white tulips with little leaves, brown wrapping paper, brown string
   - white carnation with little leaves, brown wrapping paper, brown string

Lindt's swiss thin extra dark chocolate

a classic 6 inches round coffee cake with dark chocolate fondant and filling, less sugar,
     non fat milk


 You want to buy me IWC? Of course not.


   -US Size 11, preferably velvet, black, strappy heels/strappy gladiators/pumps/flats

   -fiction-dystopian/romance, US edition, preferably Hachette, Bloomsburry, HarperCollins,
     Scholastic and of course Penguin


Bag & Wallet


Gift Card


January 15, 2017

- WARNING! This is a sensitive content. Any materials used and written in this article is without the intention of hurting and/ offending any beliefs, religions or any principles. -

Conscience is an acting guide to the rightness or wrongness of one's behavior whereas faith is an embodiment and a doctrine for that. Our chosen religion acts as a developer of our conscience, but what happens when religion crosses our own conscience? Do we choose something that we are told to believe over something that is already within us?

I happened to stumble upon a youtube video of a 911 dispatch call coming from inside the twin tower when 9/11 occurred. I was only 6 when the tragedy striked and knew nothing about it at that time. This video of Kevin Cosgrove calling from the 105th floor of the South Tower shook me beyond belief. The recording of Cosgrove's 911 call was disturbing, especially at the end, when his shouting cry "Oh God! Oh!" accompanied the downfall of the tower. The silence after was unbearable. It got me into thinking; if conscience were to present, this tragedy would not even occurred in the first place. 

Scientists believe that a baby is born with a conscience and sets of moral values, which then to be developed by the surrounding people, customs and eventually religion. Faith, in this matter, teaches us how to operate better with our conscience. The purpose of religion stands on how the calling and the movement in our heart is to be steered and sharpen with the knowledge and faith over the religion's embodiment. It is critical that every individual's interpretation of what is good and what is wrong is guided by the teaching and a subject that knows better. 

Every religions teach their followers good. Every faith leads us to better understanding to what is right and what is not. However, there come times when faith-conscience wins over the self-conscience. It is when one's nature and one's behavior are guided solely on what they believe and whatever good and bad that comes with it. They forgot what they are born with. It is fortunate if those faith are well-interpreted, but what happen when it isn't? It is when killing, terror and anarchy are justified. It is when the line of compassion, empathy and basic understanding is blurred and will eventually dissolve. It is when people justify their wrongness in the name of faith. It is when their self-conscience no longer works. It is when they finally lose their humanity.

Faith, religion and conscience work side by side. They support and lift each other. Even when one portion of them fails, there must always be the self-conscience left, the very thing that makes us HUMAN. Thus saying, a good faith should improve one's conscience, not destroy it.


January 4, 2017

The cycle of studying begins when a baby learns to blink to when a student receives his degree. A baby may just receive a scribble of milestones in his mother's notebook but when a student graduates, there is only one indicator left to prove his worth : his academic scores, or GPA as people mostly call it. The journey of getting the word "Cum Laude" plastered on that degree is no joke at all. Tears and 4-hours of sleep are every students' daily consumptions. After all, this very GPA is the result of their years of efforts and the one determination of what their future might be. Or is it?

It is absolutely true that scores are the fairest measure to value one's work. However, are scores the fairest measure to value one's capabilities? Some will say that throughout the course of one's academic years, scores are proven result of the use of his intelligence. Another will say that there are contributing factors that might divert scores' objectivity, such as motivation and time. While scores are inevitably factual and measurable, a lot of contributing factors like mentioned before hold much bigger portion than what is actually done and achieved. The sense of objectivity in these scores is becoming less and less factual but more and more judgemental. It is no longer about the Straight A's students being placed in the most prestigious and highest paying jobs but more to those students whose capabilities are beyond measurement, whose capabilities are out of the textbook and whose capabilities are beyond whatever it is the school are testing them with.

I have gone throughout fifteen years of studying to be well aware of how academic scores are wrongly deceitful and are a big misunderstanding. No offense, but I have encountered countless of students whose scores are sky high yet have the faintest idea of the basic knowledge. I have also encountered many students who are bad on paper but are some of the brightest people I have ever known. The rarest comes from those who are both good on paper and paradigm, and as the word represents, they are rare.

In conclusion, scores often do no represent someone's capabilities or the ideas that make them worthy. It is the way they absorb, process and deliver their thoughts and opinions that makes them worth beyond their academic scores, and that's what counts.


December 3, 2016

I have been driving for almost 2 years now, a newbie. I was taught by my father whom I considered to be a very polite driver (not a single scratch on his 5-year-old car!). I have experienced quite a few episodes on road as well as plenty of road rages and cursing, mainly because of the staggering amount of rude and inconsiderate drivers, either of cars and/ motorcycles. Based on those very 'observations', I've concluded plenty of driving etiquette all people with common sense and common courtesy should understand then implement in real life. Here we go.

1. Always, ALWAYS use the turn signal. You want to change lane? Use the turn signal. You want to turn? Use the turn signal, hence the name. You see something blocking your way ahead and you want to avoid it? Use the turn signal, mainly to notify the cars behind. You want to overtake the car(s) in front of you by swerving to the side/opposite lane? Use the turn signal to notify the cars ahead and the cars behind. DO NOT turn your signal on AFTER you had successfully changed lane/turned to your chosen direction; you are stupid if you do that.

2. Do no tailgate. It is rude and it is dangerous, especially when you can't maintain your pace. You are also exposed to a higher risk if the car in front of you suddenly brake.

3. You're in the fast lane? Go fast.

4. ALWAYS use your rearview mirror before you make any decision, either turning, stopping, changing lane, ANY DECISION.

5. If you are turning, make it as narrow as possible; do not take up too much lane, especially the lane that is not yours.

6. Do not slam on your brake. If you are going to stop unexpectedly, always make time to turn the hazard light on.

7. In 4-way intersections, if you are going straight, use your hazard light and always stop on the middle, not left nor right. Do not block the intersections.

8. If someone honks/flashes his/her headlights, it means s/he is ASKING for a way, not GIVING you a way. 

9. Do not overtake at the junction. Do not overtake then slow down. If you want to overtake, go fast, do not drive at the same pace as the car you are taking over. When a car wants to overtake you and you are on their way, move to the side a little. Do not speed up when you are being passed.

10. Do not text and drive slow. You are blocking everyone's way.

11. Do not drive so close to the car on the lane besides you. You don't know whether or not they are good at controlling their wheels.

12. Do not daydream when the light has already turned green.

13. Do not do this : on an intersection, the car ahead of you is still quite far away yet you don't go in, but when the car is closing in, you go in. Fck you.

14. Give way. The car on the opposite lane is asking for a way to turn and cars are already forming a queue behind it? Give way. The car ahead of you got stuck or took a wrong lane and is forcing to get in your lane? Give way.

15. Do not cut right in front of the car closing in behind you; they may not be able to brake on time if anything happens. Always close in to the car ahead, so if anything fails, you are in control of your own vehicle, not others. 

16. If you are searching for some places and is forced to go slow, use turn signal/hazard light. Do not slow down abruptly. 

17. There is a red light ahead. Do not brake too quickly, otherwise you are forced to brake simultaneously, therefore making it hard for the cars behind you on deciding whether or not you are actually braking. Do not cut the queue up front; it's fucking dangerous and you are also blocking the way. 

18. You want to make a turn and the intersection is still far ahead and you need to change lane? There's still plenty of time to do that! Cut your way in slowly, not abruptly. Do not cut 3 lines in a swift.

19. You want to make a turn and there are cars driving in line. The best way to cut in is to wait until the line is diminished. Don't be ridiculous by cutting the last car when you know there won't be any car following it. 

20. Do not make left turn from the right lane and vice versa. Choose your lane wisely. If you can't make it, you can always use the u-turn.

21. Do not make a complete stop before making a turn when there is plenty of space ahead. 

22. You can't see a thing beyond? Honk.

23. Do not change lane in slow moving traffic. If a car wants to cut in in slow moving traffic, give way. Don't be an idiot.

24. Do not stop at the end of the ramp/cramping the red light. Merge with the flow. There will always be plenty of lane left ahead for you to cut in/merge in.

25. If you want to cut in, wait until the traffic is moving then slowly go in. Do not stop and block cars from your original lane.

26. Cars stay on the lanes reserved for cars. So do motorcycles. So do bicycles.

27. Be wise on honking and flashing your headlights.

28. When parking, do not take more than one space. Park straight. Do not park so close to the car beside you when there's plenty of space left on your side. Stay on the reserved parking line. 

So there you go. Please, any of you, under any circumstances, do not do any of those following. Be smart, be thoughtful, be safe, have manner, respect others.


October 21, 2016

Two thousand and sixteenth's working class is currently dominated by Generation Y and soon enough will be taken over by the more-advanced and tech-savvy Generation Z. Most of the Generation X has condemned the Generation Y to be one of the most regrettable recruitees, judged solely by the generation they grew up in. The very same thing also felt by the early-born of Generation Y, whose opinions are now unison; 90s kids are the worst. This whole post is dedicated to answer the "Why?" you are currently placing at the tip of your tongue.

I am one of the late-born Generation Y, born in 1995, so close to the Generation Z that I could be as tech-savvy as they are but too far from the early-born Generation Y to understand their concern. Unfortunately, I do understand. Some of my friends told me that I look 21 but I sound 31, thus resulting in me having a lot of early-born Generation Y friends. I have had few talks with them, most of them are already settled in their chosen careers, and suprsingly enough, they agreed on one simple problem : people at my age are a pain in the ass. Why, you must ask. I've summarised enough for those at my age to learn and those early-born Generation Y employers to nod in agreement.

The key problems to be discussed here are that (some) 90s generation kids are lacking in manner, integrity and common sense. Note when I said that only SOME of these 90s generations kids are just that. From what I have gathered, here are 10 key points that need to be disclosed even further :

1. 90s kids act like they are the boss. Even act beyond their own boss. My friend, an entrepreneur herself, told me that one of her subs, born in the year 1993, gave her a year-worth timetable with proposed dates as to mark her future leave of absence. The days off, which under the company regulation are supposed to worth 14 working days, are exceeded by 10 days. How bold!

2. Their boss is a joke for them. Especially if their boss is tech-blind. Once again, lack of common sense over the fact that their boss did not born in the age of technology or at least when the technology was still at its early stage. 

3. For those bosses out there, do no try to befriend your subs, especially these 90s generation subs. Their respect is only derived from when you are acting authoritative. They are no longer able to differentiate between fear or respect in their mind, thus having them as your friends will only lower your position in the organisational structure, especially when you are still young yourself.

4. Their personal matter, judgement and decision are far more important than their bosses'. Thus, the saying that "Treat your boss as your king," is no longer applicable for this decaying generation.

5. They often neglect the simplest manners there are, such as coming in before the boss do, the etiquette of emailing to their boss, etc.

6. They are very persistent that their social life and social acknowledgement are above everything. This, of course, affects their commitment to their jobs, even worse if they are representing their company's image. They would not even think to put a hold on their social life, but they would go unnoticed if they are needed at work. 

7. The common understanding of more technicality and more difficulty equal better salary is drifting in their mind, until it becomes more work equals more salary, thus being a staff should get paid more than the boss. How incredibly funny.

8. Sweet-talk are no longer from the subs to their bosses, but the contrary. One of my friends even said, "It's like comforting a kid." How ironic.

9. They often can not work under pressure and with difficult people, thus resulting in higher rate on employee turnover. And the scrambled resume of one's own. 

10. They treat their company like it is their house. Not home. House. A house where they could come and go as they please, dress the way the want to dress, think that everyone ought to understand them. 

Last but not least, I am not saying that all of 90s kids are just that. Some are actually pretty capable of what they are doing and are fantastic in their jobs. Some may not actually realise that they do some of the things mentioned above. Here is a reminder : your boss, I don't care if s/he is dumber than you are or even annoying as hell, just do what you are told to do, as long as it fits your job description, fits your capabilities and fits you sanity. Salary may follow afterwards.

Cheers from the old soul!


October 13, 2016

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