I have been driving for almost 2 years now, a newbie. I was taught by my father whom I considered to be a very polite driver (not a single scratch on his 5-year-old car!). I have experienced quite a few episodes on road as well as plenty of road rages and cursing, mainly because of the staggering amount of rude and inconsiderate drivers, either of cars and/ motorcycles. Based on those very 'observations', I've concluded plenty of driving etiquette all people with common sense and common courtesy should understand then implement in real life. Here we go.
1. Always, ALWAYS use the turn signal. You want to change lane? Use the turn signal. You want to turn? Use the turn signal, hence the name. You see something blocking your way ahead and you want to avoid it? Use the turn signal, mainly to notify the cars behind. You want to overtake the car(s) in front of you by swerving to the side/opposite lane? Use the turn signal to notify the cars ahead and the cars behind. DO NOT turn your signal on AFTER you had successfully changed lane/turned to your chosen direction; you are stupid if you do that.
2. Do no tailgate. It is rude and it is dangerous, especially when you can't maintain your pace. You are also exposed to a higher risk if the car in front of you suddenly brake.
3. You're in the fast lane? Go fast.
4. ALWAYS use your rearview mirror before you make any decision, either turning, stopping, changing lane, ANY DECISION.
5. If you are turning, make it as narrow as possible; do not take up too much lane, especially the lane that is not yours.
6. Do not slam on your brake. If you are going to stop unexpectedly, always make time to turn the hazard light on.
7. In 4-way intersections, if you are going straight, use your hazard light and always stop on the middle, not left nor right. Do not block the intersections.
8. If someone honks/flashes his/her headlights, it means s/he is ASKING for a way, not GIVING you a way.
9. Do not overtake at the junction. Do not overtake then slow down. If you want to overtake, go fast, do not drive at the same pace as the car you are taking over. When a car wants to overtake you and you are on their way, move to the side a little. Do not speed up when you are being passed.
10. Do not text and drive slow. You are blocking everyone's way.
11. Do not drive so close to the car on the lane besides you. You don't know whether or not they are good at controlling their wheels.
12. Do not daydream when the light has already turned green.
13. Do not do this : on an intersection, the car ahead of you is still quite far away yet you don't go in, but when the car is closing in, you go in. Fck you.
14. Give way. The car on the opposite lane is asking for a way to turn and cars are already forming a queue behind it? Give way. The car ahead of you got stuck or took a wrong lane and is forcing to get in your lane? Give way.
15. Do not cut right in front of the car closing in behind you; they may not be able to brake on time if anything happens. Always close in to the car ahead, so if anything fails, you are in control of your own vehicle, not others.
16. If you are searching for some places and is forced to go slow, use turn signal/hazard light. Do not slow down abruptly.
17. There is a red light ahead. Do not brake too quickly, otherwise you are forced to brake simultaneously, therefore making it hard for the cars behind you on deciding whether or not you are actually braking. Do not cut the queue up front; it's fucking dangerous and you are also blocking the way.
18. You want to make a turn and the intersection is still far ahead and you need to change lane? There's still plenty of time to do that! Cut your way in slowly, not abruptly. Do not cut 3 lines in a swift.
19. You want to make a turn and there are cars driving in line. The best way to cut in is to wait until the line is diminished. Don't be ridiculous by cutting the last car when you know there won't be any car following it.
20. Do not make left turn from the right lane and vice versa. Choose your lane wisely. If you can't make it, you can always use the u-turn.
21. Do not make a complete stop before making a turn when there is plenty of space ahead.
22. You can't see a thing beyond? Honk.
23. Do not change lane in slow moving traffic. If a car wants to cut in in slow moving traffic, give way. Don't be an idiot.
24. Do not stop at the end of the ramp/cramping the red light. Merge with the flow. There will always be plenty of lane left ahead for you to cut in/merge in.
25. If you want to cut in, wait until the traffic is moving then slowly go in. Do not stop and block cars from your original lane.
26. Cars stay on the lanes reserved for cars. So do motorcycles. So do bicycles.
27. Be wise on honking and flashing your headlights.
28. When parking, do not take more than one space. Park straight. Do not park so close to the car beside you when there's plenty of space left on your side. Stay on the reserved parking line.
So there you go. Please, any of you, under any circumstances, do not do any of those following. Be smart, be thoughtful, be safe, have manner, respect others.
Two thousand and sixteenth's working class is currently dominated by Generation Y and soon enough will be taken over by the more-advanced and tech-savvy Generation Z. Most of the Generation X has condemned the Generation Y to be one of the most regrettable recruitees, judged solely by the generation they grew up in. The very same thing also felt by the early-born of Generation Y, whose opinions are now unison; 90s kids are the worst. This whole post is dedicated to answer the "Why?" you are currently placing at the tip of your tongue.
I am one of the late-born Generation Y, born in 1995, so close to the Generation Z that I could be as tech-savvy as they are but too far from the early-born Generation Y to understand their concern. Unfortunately, I do understand. Some of my friends told me that I look 21 but I sound 31, thus resulting in me having a lot of early-born Generation Y friends. I have had few talks with them, most of them are already settled in their chosen careers, and suprsingly enough, they agreed on one simple problem : people at my age are a pain in the ass. Why, you must ask. I've summarised enough for those at my age to learn and those early-born Generation Y employers to nod in agreement.
The key problems to be discussed here are that (some) 90s generation kids are lacking in manner, integrity and common sense. Note when I said that only SOME of these 90s generations kids are just that. From what I have gathered, here are 10 key points that need to be disclosed even further :
1. 90s kids act like they are the boss. Even act beyond their own boss. My friend, an entrepreneur herself, told me that one of her subs, born in the year 1993, gave her a year-worth timetable with proposed dates as to mark her future leave of absence. The days off, which under the company regulation are supposed to worth 14 working days, are exceeded by 10 days. How bold!
2. Their boss is a joke for them. Especially if their boss is tech-blind. Once again, lack of common sense over the fact that their boss did not born in the age of technology or at least when the technology was still at its early stage.
3. For those bosses out there, do no try to befriend your subs, especially these 90s generation subs. Their respect is only derived from when you are acting authoritative. They are no longer able to differentiate between fear or respect in their mind, thus having them as your friends will only lower your position in the organisational structure, especially when you are still young yourself.
4. Their personal matter, judgement and decision are far more important than their bosses'. Thus, the saying that "Treat your boss as your king," is no longer applicable for this decaying generation.
5. They often neglect the simplest manners there are, such as coming in before the boss do, the etiquette of emailing to their boss, etc.
6. They are very persistent that their social life and social acknowledgement are above everything. This, of course, affects their commitment to their jobs, even worse if they are representing their company's image. They would not even think to put a hold on their social life, but they would go unnoticed if they are needed at work.
7. The common understanding of more technicality and more difficulty equal better salary is drifting in their mind, until it becomes more work equals more salary, thus being a staff should get paid more than the boss. How incredibly funny.
8. Sweet-talk are no longer from the subs to their bosses, but the contrary. One of my friends even said, "It's like comforting a kid." How ironic.
9. They often can not work under pressure and with difficult people, thus resulting in higher rate on employee turnover. And the scrambled resume of one's own.
10. They treat their company like it is their house. Not home. House. A house where they could come and go as they please, dress the way the want to dress, think that everyone ought to understand them.
Last but not least, I am not saying that all of 90s kids are just that. Some are actually pretty capable of what they are doing and are fantastic in their jobs. Some may not actually realise that they do some of the things mentioned above. Here is a reminder : your boss, I don't care if s/he is dumber than you are or even annoying as hell, just do what you are told to do, as long as it fits your job description, fits your capabilities and fits you sanity. Salary may follow afterwards.
Cheers from the old soul!
This is not a rhetorical question, but how does one expresses their interest without any given sentences to explain it, even just the simplest caption to garnish the entire thing? Words are considered to be the best option to express your feelings. The simplest "I love you" could sum up your entire feelings towards someone. The simplest "Good bye" could shatter even the fondest memories resided in someone's mind. Words are a power held by every one of us. Words could fail you, but words could also make you live.
Words are one thing, but writing is the entire thing. I always admire those who have the ability to write. I've been writing on this platform for about 7 years now and I can tell you that it is not an easy thing to do. Writers don't just throw words that may tangle from one to another; they compile what I would like to call a coherent beauty. It is not as simple as making an introduction-body-conclusion, it is not also about making it work and it is certainly not as simple as throwing ideas so people could understand. Writing is a compassion held within sentences, an expression of mind formed in paragraphs. A good writer must deliver the intended information, but his/her writings need to make people 'tick'. The beauty of writing relies not only in its structured grammar but also in the crispness of its style.
Writing takes quite amount of effort and headache, thousands of fluttery feelings and one gigantic satisfaction. Writers usually go through different phases, most likely to begin with one particular idea that surfaced, lead to an emotion and knowledge built up, then came the pause, all to be finished in one celebrated period. It could take hours, days, event months to compile one good writing. The beauty of writing came simply from how a writer expresses his/her style of writing, either for its structure, its choice of vocabulary, or even its approach. Every writers are different and that's what makes each and every one of them interesting.
Little that everyone knows, writing could also help you expressing your interest(s). Through writing, you get to deliver much broader scope of your interest, inviting those to stand in your shoes, see what you see and feel what you feel. It's not as simple as telling everyone you like sport, but more to why and how you like it. Think of it as explaining a thing to a 5-year-old, with much complex sentences and deliberated words.
I considered myself to be one of those non-specific writer/blogger. I write pretty much about anything that goes in my mind. So to take you on further to what I just elaborated to you, I brought to you much anticipated contributors with vast amount of experience on writing for one particular interest and I am gonna give you my opinion on what makes their writing 'tick'.
-- I am not gonna give you their backgrounds nor achievements, you are gonna have to head to their sites to find out --
"I write about food the way I do now because I want to pull the audience to the frontier of food appreciation. That there's more to it than delicious. That there's more to it than calories. To make that happen, I experimented with tons of approach. One of my favorite ways is to actually not write about the food. One of my article titled "Sarugaku Coffee Daikanyama : Tokyo's Best Kept Secret" begins with a quote from John Mayer. What does it have to do with a cup of coffee? As it turns out, a lot. Because if a cup of caffeine can take me to a particular segment in my memories about a song, then it can take you too to places you've been or you've never been. Food has that power. It is the single entity (other than sex) that can get into your body voluntarily. So, when you're eating, you're choosing to take yourself on an orgasmic level or not. I want people to realize that through the writing."
I've known Ruby for few years now. I discovered him through his blog, a damn good food blog. I am not gonna talk about his extraordinary skill on food photography, but I am gonna talk about how his writing makes your mind wander and how every sentences he built will rattle your hunger.
1. He usually includes a follow-up to his post title, to hook people up. For example, one of his post is titled "Kashiwa Little Tokyo : Trip Down Memory Lane"; it begs us for questions like what does this particular restaurant remind him of? What kind of memory he had in his mind while dining there? Sure you can find the answer by reading the article.
2. He uses references, either a famous saying, a song, any stuffs like that. It not only takes you on to a different level, but also give a relation to what's food gotta do with every other aspects in life. It makes you think far beyond what foods represent, not only as a fulfilment for your hunger, but for your hungry mind as well.
3. He puts you behind his lenses and take you down on a trip in his shoes. He gives you detailed view of the restaurant's ambience and some of his opinion about it.
4. He often relates his writing to what we usually call an 'event amplification'. For example, he wrote "We took turns trying the granola bowl; and while the presentation was delightful, we came to an agreement that it was supposed to be chewier and less runny. Nonetheless, a granola bowl is supposed to be refreshing, and it did exactly just that for me," on one of his post. He gave us a minor hint on what he were doing there and related it to his dish, in such manner that it is not much of an annoyance.
5. A killer introduction and a strong conclusion. Always, always mind this one.
6. He sometimes throws a knowledge or two about the topic. He wrote "On top of that, Rubiaceae is the name of the familia of flowering plants that include coffee. Flowers are delicate and feminine, two traits that traditionally define women. So, all-female crews and flowers. Plus their coffee cup has cute red-stripes on it. Is Rubiaceae all about traditional femininity?" He entitled to his opinion, but he twisted it in such way to make us think, to make us believe, even just to say, "I think so too." This, my dear reader, is how you influence people through your writing.
7. He would not only comment on the food, but he will also give you a minor hint and warning, to approach his reader better. This is very important, because readers are also entitled to their own perspectives, so it is up to you to make them see yours.
There are a lot of food bloggers wannabe out there with enough materials and platform to become an acclaimed one, but they failed on delivering the beauty of the foods itself. I've read some of them and I just went meh. To be honest, I only visit few of them to know where some restaurants are located and their price point. I simply don't trust their opinion because -no offense- any people could write such thing.
"Filmmaking begins with words and sentences. A humble screenplay could breed a life-changing masterpiece. A scrap of ideas could be the beginning of a grand adventure, full of incredible visuals and performances. My criticism journal also starts with words and sentences. I could perfectly put all my emotions and thoughts about movies I've watched in its simplest form, waiting to be unpacked and felt by the mind of my readers."
No one speaks of movie like this man does. I personally know his incomparable love towards movie and filmmaking, but you too can feel his passion through his writing. It's insane.
1. His writing is very well structured, easy to digest, with choices of vocabulary that won't confuse you yet still build the crispness I talked about earlier. He usually begins his review with a synopsis, then the background like the movie's prequel, or the infamous work the director directed in the past, stuffs like that. Then he would comment on the movie, from its plot, its characters, its world building, its script, etc. He would tell what's good and what's not, then end it with a strong yet brief conclusion.
2. His style of writing is very journalistic like. What's this 'journalistic-like' style of writing? It's when you could fit as many information as possible in a paragraph without making it sounding too crowded. In short, brief yet informative.
3. He uses proper Bahasa Indonesia without losing the fun part. It is a very hard thing to do, because in Bahasa Indonesia, there is a tendency to appear stiff and uncoordinated, not like English. Fortunately, he manages to prove it wrong.
4. He is a movie genius but he doesn't appear cocky in his writing. I am pretty sure you have read plenty of movie reviews with tons of information that you can't even digest because you are a 'commoner'. His writing doesn't show any of that. He does throw some tidbits, but only the necessary ones.
5. Movie review is usually a long article, but he manages to capture all the points in enough amount of paragraphs. This is important because in reading a movie review, people would normally scroll to the end to see only the verdict and rate, but seeing his brief explanation, it'll approach his reader to even bother to read.
I did a couple of movie review myself, but I can't write like he does. Those 4 aspects (eliminate the point number 3) he possesses are far beyond my ability. It is hard to write a movie review, because you are not just presenting your opinion on the movie, but you will have to present significant amount of information that will back your opinion up, otherwise yours will just be a stupid comment away.
In conclusion, you are not only have to excell on your writing, but you also have to express your personality through it. People will appreciate a good writing and a good amount of information, but they will make themselves a regular reader if they find your writing, not only interesting, but also alive.
I actually approached more contributors, but these two definitely striked on their writing. I promise to give you another contributors to give an appreciation to, on the next post. So you definitely need to stay tuned for that.
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- CONSIDER THIS A WARNING! I AM WRITING THIS WHILE HUGGING MY STOMACH DUE TO SHORT-TERM HUNGER I AM CURRENTLY EXPERIENCING, RELATIVELY TO LACK OF LUNCH AND DINNER. IT'S GONNA BE A LITTLE DUMB. -
It's just sad to see how people react to certain differences, on how things are different. Some may appear that they understand or that they support the differences, but deep inside, I know they think far beyond that mild comprehension. I understand that in life, you'll mostly be presented to antonymous sides. It's either black or white, big or small, right or wrong. People tend to question those 'in betweens' and where do they fit into certain categories. And taking side, they will. So far, it's either to oppose or to support. Again, no in between.
There was time when my origin only fit into 2 categories : mild or spicy. It was easier back then, because people are basically abrasive or tame. There were no surprises; you got what you came for. Then came the variety of green jalapeño, chipotle, buffalo style, habanero, garlic pepper and sweet & spicy. To tell you the truth, they are all the same thing : pepper. No matter how you create it, how you package it, how you mix it, how you cook it, pepper is still pepper. But many people can't seem to see it that way. This emerging new diversities shocked them, even some believe that it is a violation of a lot of codes.
I mean I get that being original also means that you go well with nearly everything. Being original also means that people wouldn't be having a hard time looking at your true interior of which your color gave it away. It's always the red to orange color that soothes people, not deep red, brown or even green! Those colours raise nothing but questions : what are they? Why? It also proves that being original could give you bigger packages in life, a galloon even, whereas others are just a tiny glass bottle away.
I also notice that people are less judgemental when it comes to hotness. They see it as no more than preferences. This is where it gets confusing. They understand that people have preferences in life, even you yourself have one. So what's with the colors? What's with the flavors? It all comes down to one damn thing : PEPPER! It still is hot and legendary and it's gonna warm up your life no matter what.
This post is not sponsored by McIlhenny. It is simply a random take on life from an addict with only few drops of Habanero, my favourite, left in the kitchen. Your implication is yours to swallow, not mine to blame.
It's true that I'm not like most girls you know, but I will be lying if I say that I don't have a vision about my dream wedding.
Weddings in Indonesia are BIG BIG BIG. Especially those held by Chinese-Indonesian. I was able to round up 11 major differences that are a big NO for me. Let's dig in.
1. The number of guest is normally at minimum 300 people. I know Chinese people normally have big family, but inviting the girlfriend of your brother's friend is unnecessary, unless she is your best friend.
2. No RSVP, so there will always be leftover foods.
3. HUUUUUGEEEEE CAKE. Made out of cork. 8 tier isn't high enough for them.
4. Too many rules and custom until you forget to actually enjoy the day. The rundown is crazy!
5. Unnecessary spending on things like theatrical dancers, celebrity singer, MC, etc. I'm sure there is someone who is talkative enough in your family to master the ceremony as well as some people with golden voice to entertain the guests.
6. No wine and/ champagne. Purely soft drink mixed with water. And ice tea.
7. EVERYONE IS ALWAYS LATE.
8. Huge stage, extravagant decoration and lighting. They spend great amount of money on those things. It's blinding.
9. Some bestman, bridesmaids, groomsmen and maid of honor are actually don't know the couple that well and they get paid to be one! Hahaha funny.
10. Most of the brides rent a gown for good $3000 when they could buy one, just more plain. Why? Because extravagant ball-gown with a lot of beadings, crystals and long train topped with chapel veil is a formula to move around freely in your wedding day. Forget about your future daughter wearing a something borrowed then.
11. Equally big engagement party. I don't see the point in here. It's a waste of money. Why don't you just cut to the asking your girlfriend's parent for permission-getting down on one knee-wedding planning?
Now, let's get to my vision, people.
I don't want a party. I envision a simple rooftop dinner when he (who are you?) gets down on one knee. Top of the Rock NYC is also my dream place to get proposed at. And I would be lying if I don't want a 1 carat round-cut Tiffany solitaire/diamond band (Harry Winston and Cartier will also do hahaha).
I've said this a million times : wasting more than $500 for pre-wedding photos is stupid. Chinese-Indonesian like their pre-wedding photos to be extravagant and expensive. They wouldn't mind spending hundred and hundred dollars to rent a tux and a gown and to fly the entire photographer team to Dubai. And I can't even see their faces in many of their photos just because they want to accentuate the scenery. Cra-zy.
I envision my pre-wedding photos to be taken at a coffee shop, a monochromatic photobooth-like studio, and a bed. I want it to look as fun and as intimate (in a romantic way ya!) as possible. No drones necessary.
A-Line is my top pick, then Sheath and ball gown (but not that puffy). I want it to be sleeveless, sweetheart neckline mostly, tulle, a tiny bling belt, ivory/white, no train, as simple as possible. I definitely don't want lace, satin, taffeta, bling, beaded, embellishment, or anything. Well I still can't picture myself in a Fit and Flare or Mermaid, so just stick with that 3 sillhouttes first. But it's a possibility. I loveeeee Hayley and Monique. I also love Vera but her style is a little ball gown-y and over the top (and damn expensive). Maybe I can afford the White by Vera Wang. And I will definitely BUY, not rent.
I know I'm tall, but what the hell, those white heels are pretty!
I envision my bouquet to be white peonies, arranged in posey bouquet style, with a little leaf coming out and the stem to be tied together with tiny white ribbon. I envision my make up to be nude glam and my hair to be just like the photo above, without accessories. I envision my veil to be mid-length, comb style with no lining, no edge, no beading whatsoever.
Dear my future husband, I require you to wear a BLACK single-breasted, single vent, 1 button, fitted, notch lapel suit with jetted pocket and 3 kissing sleeve button of Tom Ford/Armani/Boss. It's an investment really. And a black derby dress shoes from Ferragamo, yet another investment. And your boutonniere should match my bouquet, which is a single white peony. Plus, you will wear a matching black bow tie. And you will BUY all of them. Again, it's an investment.
I only want 1 MOH and 1 bridesmaid. I envision them wearing the exact same thing : long black sleeveless dress with spaghetti strap and v-neck. I want their shoes to be black strappy heels. Their bouquet will be nosegay-style baby's breath with tiny white ribbon to tied the stem. Their make up will be nude and their hair will be styled just like the picture above. And I will buy them those dresses and heels.
For bestman & groomsmen, the fitted and the color of the suit is exactly like the groom's, minus the tie. Bestman & groomsmen boutonniere will be baby's breath to match the bridesmaids and maid of honour's bouquet. For father of the groom & bride, their suit will be fitted exactly like the groom and in black. Their boutonniere will be 2 little white peonies. And I don't really care what shoes they will be wearing because they will be wearing their own. And those matching suits will be rented! And if my future husband has brother(s), his/their style will be the same as his/their father.
For the mother of the groom, I envision her to wear a custom-made full-length lace gown in champagne color with cap sleeve and a little v-neck. Her shoes will be low black strappy heels, her make up will be natural glam, her hair will be just like the picture above and her boutonniere will be the same like the father of the bride & groom. If my future husband has sister(s), they will be styled similarly, probably the dress with no sleeve, higher heels and loose curly hair.
I envision my ceremony to be either indoor or outdoor. The chairs are made out of dark-brown wood (like the picture) with no decoration on the chair. There will be scatters of white rose petals on the left and right side of the aisle (plus the candle if it's indoor). The altar is made out of 2 huge standing bouquet made out of variant of white rose, carnation, hydrangea, lily, dahlia and orchids. Those 2 pictures above are exactly what I envision it to be.
I envision my ride to be a black sedan, either BMW or Mercedes. There has to be a string quartet on my ceremony. The invitation is calligraphy, plain all-white and simple, no website whatsoever (RSVP is through e-mail). And the wedding band, I envision it to be very simple, with only a stud of diamond and each other's name engraved inside them, both from the dream brand of either Cartier or Harry Winston.
I want a small wedding of 150. I envision it mainly indoor at some place with wooden floor and ceiling-to-floor window (like the image on the left). Round tables with the same chairs as the ceremony's chairs, with no decor on the chair, and simple white cloth to cover the table. I envision the centerpiece to be as simple as possible; brown wooden vase with arrangement of white dendrobium, sweet pea and gladiolus with twigs coming out like the picture on the middle. There's no need for extravagant stage, the bride and groom only need the same chair with decoration on the back, mainly white hydrangea and lisianthus. There is absolutely no need to decorate the ceiling, the entrance nor the aisles. The dance floor is just some space set aside at the center of the venue. The band will be placed at the corner and the cake will only need a small table near the bride & groom's table.
I envision my wedding cake to be 3 tier black-velvet covered by white fondant, with white peonies decoration like the picture on the far left. I want a band, not a DJ. I want to serve my favourite champagne, which is Moët & Chandon. I envision the food to be fine dining; some kind of scallop appetizer, an entrée of beef and a soufflé as a dessert. My dream wedding favor is Godiva's wedding chocolate or mini Moët.
There you have it. My principle is that you are allowed to spend big in things that are last, like the rings & the dress and spend little like the decor and the cake.
I really hope my future husband (who are you?) will read this post. But don't freak out okay? It's only a dream.